Remembering Brother Terry Finn

Obituary for Terrence James Patrick “Terry” Finn


Finn; Terrence James “Terry” – Son of the late Helen and Jim, brother of Larry Finn (Judith) and Jeanne Finn-Allen (Ed), husband of Janet Wotten-Finn, father of Erica Ginham (Rob), grandfather of Lola, Poppy and Finn, brother-in-law of Pat Chase (Robert) and Art Osmond (Ruby). Fondly remembered by our nieces, nephews and friends.
 

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Well done our Terry! You did a great job while you blessed us with your presence. You can rest in God’s care now.

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Everyone’s life has its time of sadness but if we are blessed, we receive moments of happiness and seconds of great joy. To our family and many friends who stayed in touch and kept us in your prayers, you were the moments of happiness and a constant source of great joy. Your strength was and is still with us.
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Please join us at the Wartman Funeral Home – Kingston Chapel for visitation on Monday, January 14, 2019 from 7-9 pm and from 10-11am at St. Paul the Apostle Catholic Church (1111 Taylor Kidd Boulevard) on Tuesday, January 15, 2019. Mass of Christian Burial will follow in the Church at 11: 00 am. Friends desiring may contribute by cheque to St. Paul the Apostle – Knights of Columbus. On-line condolences at www.wartmanfuneralhomes.com

 

First Visitation

When

Monday, January 14th, 2019 7:00pm – 9:00pm

Location

Wartman Funeral Home “Kingston Chapel”

Address

980 Collins Bay Rd

Kingston, ON K7M 5H2

Second Visitation

When

Tuesday, January 15th, 2019 10:00am – 11:00am

Location

St Paul The Apostle Catholic Church

Address

1111 Taylor Kidd Blvd

Kingston, Ontario K7M 8G8

Mass Information

When

Tuesday, January 15th, 2019 11:00am

Location

St. Paul The Apostle Catholic Church

Address

1111 Taylor Kidd Blvd

Kingston, Ontario K7M 8G8

January Message

Dear Brother Knights,

I have been struggling with another Faith issue of late. Why can I not be the person I know I should be? I know about Jesus and his saving grace. I have accepted him as my Lord and Savior. Yet, I do not act like I have Jesus as a friend. I too often behave in ways I know will hurt either me or someone else. I have hurt my children, my wife, my friends, my fellow knights and my co-workers with my sinful behaviour over the years. How am I to cope?

I think St. Paul had some of these similar issues. “For I know that in me, that is, in my flesh, there dwells nothing good… For the good that I wish, I do not do, but the bad that I do not wish is what I practice” (Romans 7:18-19). We cannot do it by ourselves. We need the help of the Holy Spirit to overcome our sinful ways.

12Therefore, brothers and sisters, we have an obligation—but it is not to the flesh, to live according to it. 13 For if you live according to the flesh, you will die; but if by the Spirit you put to death the misdeeds of the body, you will live. (Romans 8:12-13)

This past year, I started going to reconciliation again after having shied away from the sacrament sort of on purpose over the past few years. “I don’t need to confess my sins to a priest! I can do it myself!” I lied to my-self. I was clearly failing to improve and worst of all, I felt more and more of my own self accusations. I had started to not like the imposter I had become. Holy and good on the outside but rotten to the core inside, full of envy and greed and lustful thoughts. I was not the man people thought I was (or so I felt).

This past year, I began feeling the need to return to The Lord’s Graces in the sacrament of Reconciliation again. At first it was hard. I wasn’t even sure I remembered how to do it (I did). I went last winter and simply spoke to the priest, talking about my failures, my ‘crimes’ and how un-Christian I was.

Fully expecting at least a tiny look of disgust to flash across his eyes, I saw only loving and acceptance from the priest. When he pronounced the words, “Your Sins are Forgiven!” I felt a weight lift off my chest like a bolder being removed. I could breathe again. I could feel love again and I truly felt like I could forgive and be forgiven again. I have returned again to reconciliation since then, most recently, Just before Christmas when our parish held a drop-in Reconciliation session in the Church. It was a joyous event and I was even able to suggest successfully that a friend also attend. I did note how scant the crowd was and I wondered how many of my fellow parishioners partake in this wonderful opportunity to experience God’s forgiveness in such a real, tangible way. Have you been to Reconciliation this season? It’s so easy! Just go to the priest and say “Hello Father, I haven’t been here for a while. Can you help me through this please?” He will, and you will never regret it.

As a bit of business, We will be holding a first-degree like we did this fall, at our regular meeting in March. Please use your new-found graces you received from Reconciliation to invite a friend to join the Knights. We welcome all who are interested in becoming a member of this faithful fellowship of friends.

Vivat Jesus!

Michael Mombourquette
Grand Knight

Jesus is the Reason for the Season

Hello Brother Knights,

As I wonder about the world in recent times, I sometimes feel overwhelmed. Someone cuts me off in traffic and my response is anger. Others are upset that wealthy people are getting even richer and they seem to be getting all the (tax) breaks. Others are angry that foreigners are being allowed into our country; after all, they might be terrorists in disguise. Fear and Anger seems to be a motivating factor in lots of people lately. Fear at the imagined dangers hidden in others, anger that someone disagrees with us because, “we are right”. People are spreading extremist messages spouting fear and hatred of others on just about any topic and from all perspectives. It seems like everybody is supposed to hate ‘the other’. We don’t even know who the “other” people are, but we are told to call them “Enemy”, “Traitor”, “Stupid”, and many other dehumanizing terms. How do we fit in? What should we do?

So, what do we do when we see or experience something that seems to challenge our beliefs? Do we roll over and let it go because we’re afraid to rock the boat? Do we get angry and vilify everyone we think may have been involved? I think neither option serves us very well. Allowing others to roll over us in their ignorance or arrogance (whichever it is) will hurt both of us, whose faith is being trampled, and them, whose faith will not be enhanced by a positive encounter with us. Getting angry will only serve to encourage the anger or resentment from the other side and will lead to further hurt both ways. In fact, that kind of anger only serves Satan, who wants us to be angry at each other. The angrier we get, the more we divide up the Church and the more he is winning, and we are losing.

So, there is a better way. As Catholics, we hold to the Faith that Christ Loves us all equally. Each and every one of us is a child of God “even when we are not faithful, God will always be faithful” (2 Tim 2:13). We are called to be Saints (1 Cor 1:2). We are expected to “Live in a manner worthy of the call we have received” (Eph 4:1-6). The Church needs us to heed our call to sainthood. She needs more saints here in the world to help heal the World. We need to avoid being influenced by the world around us; We need to live in Christ and allow Christ to influence the world through us. We need to recognize Christ in all people and love him in others, even when those around us seem to hate.

Pray Brothers that we can come to know our own sins and come to know ourselves as sinners who can be and are being saved by God’s love and that we can use that self-awareness to guide how we see others. We ask God to send his Spirit on us, so that we can have help in discernment and right judgement (Jer 22:3), so that we can see Christ in others as well, even when they (and we) are not faithful.

Vivat Jesus

Michael Mombourquette
Grand Knight

Successes, Rest and Renewal

Brother Knights,

This summer is nearly at an end and hopefully we will have had successes, rest and renewal as so often happens with summer.  Just as most Canadians already know…  Summer is too short.  Personally, I didn’t get everything on my to do list completed.  But, one thing I did complete was my prayer time personally and as often as our competing schedules allowed (and our laziness, truth-be- told) I prayed with my wife daily before we started our day.  The Supreme Chaplain’s challenge for us this Summer was, in fact, almost exactly that.

Challenge by Supreme Chaplain Archbishop William E. Lori:
This month I challenge you to “come away” to a quiet place by praying at least five minutes a day, first thing in the morning before you check your electronic devices or turn on the TV. You will likely have stops and starts, but strive to be as consistent as possible. Secondly, I challenge you to respond to Jesus’ invitation to “rest a while” by doing something truly restful on Sunday, the day of rest.

I will present to you all a new challenge for September in our meeting that month. Let us all see how we do.  Daily time spent with our Lord is crucial to our continued ability to be good Catholic gentlemen, to have the energy and personal resources to accomplish all the good works we strive for with the knights and in the parish and the world in general.

Our directorships for the new Faith in Action programs are coming together. I now have directors for the four categories Life, Faith, Family and Community and an overall program director.  I’ll announce them at the September meeting. Make sure you’re there!  We will be looking for people to help chair the various individual activities in all the categories of our program.  Brother Al DeBenedetti (DGK) and I are also looking for a few more members to step up to be on our new Retention committee.  We need a few more members. Each new member will be asked to be ‘shepherds’ for and ‘watch over’ about 10 brother knights.  This means we want you to call them every few months, see how they are doing, let them know what we are doing and just be there as a welcoming contact within the Knights of Columbus. I expect that one night each month, you can call two or three members on your list of 10. That small time commitment will allow you to reach each member several times per year.  Not an onerous task but one that can reap a harvest of reinvigorated members whose feeling of importance within our group and desire to participate in our activities is enhanced by your calls.  I look forward to the call I receive from my ‘shepherd Knight’.

Brother Chris Huff has volunteered to be our new membership chair but he cannot do it alone.  Our retention committee with their phone calls to their ‘sheep’ will be very helpful in encouraging current members to get involved but we also need to always be thinking about how to find and encourage new members to join.  Chris will be looking for you all to help out in that effort in your personal relationships with fellow parishioners and friends who may not even be attending our church.  All Good Catholic men are welcome.

Our district deputy is also looking for your help with recruitment.  You may have seen the replica Stanley Cup poster in this bulletin.  The districts are all in a competition with each other to recruit the most members.  Let’s see if we can be number 1.

I have been struggling with the latest news out of Pennsylvania, where you likely heard the news that a grand Jury has decided that as many as 300 priests may have abused several thousand children over the past several 7? decades.  So what are we to think of this?  How do we handle a situation where the Church we have deep connections to has covered up abuse of this magnitude?  Is the Church corrupt? Has our Faith been betrayed?  What should we do?  Is this just a vendetta out to paint our beloved Church as evil? Some may find it hard to believe that so many priests were involved. “The numbers must be wrong” said one person.  Well, even if it’s just one priest whose abuse of just one child was covered up and enabled by a higher-up to ‘save face’, that is horrendous, it’s unconscionable.

I have heard of people who are tempted to ‘leave’ the church.  I implore you all to instead ‘lead’ our church back to Christ, back to its proper faith in Jesus Christ. Too many individuals have put faith in people rather than in the Church and Specifically, the founder of the Church, Jesus Christ himself. It is people who are corrupt, meaning we are all, each one of us, sinners. Some of our sins are less harmful than others but not one of us can claim to have lead a perfect holy life, except if our Name is Mary and our only son is Jesus. We must know that the Church is more than the sum of its members. It is the body of Christ. We need to strive to lead our fellow neighbors and church-goers by our example, our encouragement, our friendship and our prayers.  And we all need to stand up and call out abuse of any kind.  We need to know what to look for so we can know when someone is abusing and so we can avoid situations where our own motives might be called into question. Let us raise our own awareness of the weakness of ourselves and our neighbors and be ready to stand up for the innocent; the one who has no voice.  A strong faith-filled Church means we are all looking out for each other.  We all need each other’s support and strength and prayers.

Vivat Jesus!

Michael Mombourquette
Grand Knight

 

A New Fraternal Year Begins

Brother Knights,

You have elected me as your new Grand Knight for this new fraternal year. I am honoured and humbled by your faith in me and I promise to do the best I can to make this a successful year. I have some tough acts to follow as I ponder some of the past Grand Knights I have known over the previous (almost) twenty years. So many gifts, so many talented people, so many of you are still here. I am grateful for the strong executive you have elected into office with me this year and am very happy to be working with such a wonderful team of Knights as are on this year’s executive — so many people whom I have admired and by whom I have been inspired over the years.

This July marks the beginning of a new time for me and for the council as a new executive begins their turn in office. There are a few changes in this new fraternal year, with Surge for Service being replaced by Faith in Action. The Surge for Service program we are replacing had six categories for the activities, but some councils found it too onerous to try to complete activities in each of the categories. Faith in Action has only four broad categories now called: Faith, Family, Community and Life and we can fit our existing activities into these new categories. New individual items have been introduced as suggested activities into each of these categories.

In the coming weeks, I will be looking for some directors for the various categories and of course, we will be needing chairs for many of the individual activities we are running. I hope many of you can continue to serve this council and for those who are stepping down, thank you for your past service and I hope you can be available to help your replacements get familiar with their new roles.

I want to tell you a little about myself and my faith journey. I have always been a good Catholic, from all outer appearances; I go to church every Sunday, I have been a reader and a choir member for decades, I participated in all the ‘churchy’ things, parish picnics, grounds cleanups, pub nights, etc. but it wasn’t enough. I had lost something from my days as a young adult when I had so inspired my wife to fall in love with me, when I felt alive and filled with the Holy Spirit. Instead, I had doubts about my faith. Was I just going through the motions? Was I really a good Catholic? I didn’t even have faith in my own abilities and de-sires to continue on in leadership roles anywhere. Sometimes, I wondered, “If I just quit it all and became a recluse would life be easier?”. Life felt so overwhelming for some time.

In January, I made a few decisions that have changed things for me for the better. I attended a Cursillo week-end and felt re-invigorated in Christ. The Cursillo weekend brought me way back to my early ‘20s and the youth movement called Teens Encounter Christ (TEC) that I was involved in back then. I felt the surge of energy and life welling up in me as I accepted, once again, Jesus Christ as my Lord and Savior and invited the Holy Spirit into my heart again. Inspired by that, I decided to get up early and join my wife Cynthia in morn-ing prayer. Praying with Cynthia each day has continued the renewal of my spirit and also had the bonus of improving our marriage and the love we feel for each other. I guess I had been shutting The Lord out for a long time, going through the motions of being a good Catholic but not really allowing Jesus to be my friend and mentor or the Holy Spirit to fill my soul with the power and life and love that the Lord is offering.

Do you feel sometimes like you are overwhelmed? Do you sometimes wonder if you still have faith? Let the Holy Spirit into your hearts, allow Jesus Christ to be your friend, not just a name you use to finish off your prayers. Spend time with him, listen to him and share him with others. I will keep you all in my prayers.

Come Holy Spirit, fill the hearts of your faithful
and enkindle in them the power of your love.
Send forth your Spirit and they shall be created
and you shall renew the face of the earth.
Oh God, who by the light of the Holy Spirit,
did instruct the hearts of the faithful,
Grant that by the same Holy Spirit
we may be truly wise
and ever enjoy his consolations.
Through Christ our Lord, Amen.

 

Vivat Jesus!

Michael Mombourquette
Grand Knight

May Message

Brother Knights –

As two years of being Grand Knight of our council winds down there is much to be grateful for.

At every turn along the way there has always been someone there to provide guidance, suggestions and action!  It has been proof that as Knights we are never walking this path alone.  I appreciate the support that I have received from each and every one of you!

I thank every member of the executives that I have served with for their reliable and constantly extraordinary efforts and participation. You all know that our Worthy Financial Secretary, Br. Dale, is the anchor of our council, and his efforts do not go unnoticed.

Several members had pointed out that we seemed to have lost our religious focus, and that the meetings are too much about business.  I appreciate the effort of Brother Jim to introduce a decade of the Rosary that we pray together at the beginning of our meetings.  Likewise, Br. Martin reminded us that we should also include a Prayer for Life at our meetings, and that has become part of our closing prayers.

I am grateful for all of you who have organized, executed and participated in the many events that we as a council have put on.  Special thanks to the Program Directors and event organizers. It is an amazing number of volunteer hours that we offer as a council to accomplish the various school programs, parish events and other things that we do.

Please join me in supporting our Grand Knight Elect as he guides our council forward.

Here is a quote from the Introduction of Lifelines: Inspirational Stories of Women of Faith that was brought to my attention, and I hope it will help us to move ahead:

“As we take hold of the lifelines of hope and faith from others,
we are saved from our own tendencies to place limitations on what is possible.”

 

Vivat Jesus!

Ray Smith
Grand Knight

Remembering Brother Gord Costello

COSTELLO, Gordon Edward
October 13th, 1929 – May 4th, 2018

We are heartbroken at the passing of our much loved husband, father and poppa on May 4, 2018 in his 89th year. Gordon will be missed every day by his wife of 56 years, Beatrice (Murray) and his daughters, Ann Marie, Cathy (Paul) and Laura (Andrew) and his grandchildren, Katharine, Patrick, Claire, Colin, Lauren, Rudy, Jonah and Clara.  Gordon was predeceased by his parents, Theresa and Daniel Costello, his brothers, Bill, Joe, Bernard, Daniel, Father Jack and his sisters, Mary, Jean, Margaret, Dorothy. He will be dearly missed by his sisters Bridget Malone and Patricia (Doug) McGilvery and sisters-in law, Rose, Erma and Marion and many nieces and nephews.

Gordon was born on October 13, 1929 in Dublin, Ontario. He worked for 38 years with the Ministry of Transportation. Gordon was a natural storyteller, gifted athlete, active gardener, skillful carpenter and competitive bridge player. He was an involved and active member of Our Lady of Lourdes Church, St. Paul the Apostle Church and most recently St. Joseph’s Church. We have lost a kind, gentle, devoted family man and friend.

Family and friends may call at Gordon F. Tompkins Funeral Home, 435 Davis Drive, Kingston on Tuesday, May 8th, 2018 from 3 to 5 pm and 7 to 9 pm. Mass of Christian Burial will be celebrated at St. Joseph’s Roman Catholic Church, Palace Road, Kingston on Wednesday, May 9th at 10:00 am. As expressions of sympathy, in lieu of flowers, donations to Right to Life and Partners in Mission Food Bank would be appreciated by the family.

A special thank you to the doctors, nurses and staff of the Kidd 2 ICU of KGH. You were caring and compassionate and we will be forever grateful.

March Message

Brother Knights,

On Ash Wednesday this year, Pope Francis called for three verbs to be put into practice this Lent: to pause, to see and to return, in order to feel warmth in the heart again.

“Pause from this compulsion to a fast-paced life that scatters, divides and ultimately destroys time with family, with friends, with children, with grandparents, and time as a gift… time with God.

See and contemplate the real face of Christ crucified out of love for everyone, without exception. For every-one? Yes, for everyone.

Return without fear, for this is the favourable time to come home, to the home of my Father and your Father. It is the time for allowing one’s heart to be touched… Remaining on the path of evil only gives rise to disappointment and sadness.”

In other news, we have been planning several upcoming events, and many will be found in the Knightly News.  As always, we will need your help to be successful. By the way, we are looking for golfers for the upcoming tournament in June…

Looking ahead, think about becoming an executive member of your council. Our nominations are in April, and the election is in May.

Now, we look forward to celebrating Easter – the Resurrection of our Lord!

Vivat Jesus!

Ray Smith
Grand Knight

January Message

Brother Knights,

What a year we have seen, and what a year we have ahead! Once more I thank every one of you for your support of and participation in our many events of 2017. There is much more to come!

I would like to draw your attention to the our annual Ladies Appreciation Night coming in early February. Please plan to attend. There is already planning under way for the Fish Fry, the Steak BBQ and the Golf Tournament to name a few. The Charities Lottery tickets will be available soon. The Basketball Free-throw competition is under way as well. Please attend our regular meetings when you can to learn more about these and other things that your council is doing. I encourage every one of us to participate in as many of these events as we can to support our parish, the youth and the community through our events. Your help and participation are appreciated!

Pope Francis recently tweeted this thought that I will leave with you:

“May the Lord grant us the wisdom to seek that which is worthwhile
and to love, not with our words but with our actions.”

Vivat Jesus!

Ray Smith
Grand Knight

Remembering Brother Tom Lodge

Thomas Lodge

LODGE, THOMAS FRANCIS
April 17th, 1946 – November 30th, 2017

At the age of 71 years, Tom passed into the Arms of his Lord, peacefully, surrounded by the love of his family and friends. A kind man whose generosity and care for others was his guiding light in life. He will be lovingly remembered by all for his grace, dignity and generous spirit.

Tom will be remembered forever in the hearts and minds of his wife Ann (nee McConnell); daughter Christina and his Grand Daughter Olivia; his sister Marion Soady and her husband Bill; his brothers and sisters-in-law: David and Norma McConnell, John and Cheryl McConnell, Allan and Brenda McConnell and Gordon and Sandy McConnell; as well as his many nieces and nephews.

Visitation at the GORDON F. TOMPKINS FUNERAL HOME, 435 Davis Drive (Centennial Drive and Taylor-Kidd Blvd) on Sunday, December 3, 2017 from 2-4 and 7-9. Funeral Mass will be celebrated in St. Paul the Apostle Church, 1111 Taylor-Kidd Blvd. on Monday, December 4, 2017 at 1:00 p.m.

For those wishing donations to the UHKF Cancer Centre or Ongwanada would be appreciated by his family.

On line condolences at www.gftompkinstownship.ca