Well, another Fraternal year is past and we are pondering what we will be doing this new year. Some of us will remain in our roles as Knights in various executive positions. Others are looking at whole new positions and activities in the upcoming year. I will, as you may know, be remaining in my two roles, as Purser for the J.V. Cleary Assembly 0857 and as Grand Knight for St. Paul the Apostle Council 9652. So, what will this year entail? How do we go about improving our involvement and our lives in general?
In the reading from 13th Sunday in Ordinary time, Jesus admonishes the young man who is contemplating following him with
“No one who sets a hand to the plough and looks to what was left behind is fit for the kingdom of God.” Lk 9:62
We need to keep moving forward and not spend our lives looking backwards at all our past troubles, failures or misadventures. The analogy is an apt one. In the days of plowing using an oxen or a horse to pull a blade through the soil, it required both hands on the plow and both eyes on the row ahead in order to keep the furrow straight and true. Turning one’s head to look backwards generally results in accidentally turning the whole plow and messing up the furrow in progress.
This Fraternal year, we need to step up and move forward. Let’s make sure that we can see our potential in the future. Let’s focus on developing our life in Christ and on how we will be living out the Christian life. As Knights of Columbus, we have a particular challenge to live our Catholic lives in a rather public way. We do our work best when we are seen doing our work. Take, for example, the ad-vert in the recent Kingston Whig, giving thanks for all the sponsors and help for the charity work that Council 9652 did in its annual Charity Golf Tournament. Works like this, and so many others need to be visible and out there so that others can know what we do.
We are also “out there”, day to day in everything we do. Keep in mind our witness to Christ in all that we do. Always remember to set an example for those around us, both our brother Knights and the people at large. We are modelling Catholic, Christian behaviour for all the people we meet on a daily basis. Let’s all trust in the Grace of God to give us the courage to step up boldly, knowing that while our goals may seem more than we can handle as individuals, they are not so great that we and God cannot succeed together.
PENNING, Thomas Richard –
It is with great sadness that we announce the passing of Thomas on April 30, 2019 at West Park Healthcare Centre, at the age of 88.
Beloved husband of Joan for 61 years.
Loving father of Donald (Hillary), Joanne (Andie), Barbara (Peter), and Paula (Alfred).
Devoted grandfather of Marion, Alison, Simon, Carolyn, Danielle, Emily, and Tom.
Cherished brother of Doreen (Lloyd) and brother in law of Lucy (Ralph) and Dorothy.
Predeceased by Ruth (Ralph), Jimmy (Gertrude), George (Shirley), Don, and Jim (Lee).
Tom will be deeply missed by his great-grandchildren, nieces, nephews, extended family and friends.
Visitation will take place at the Brampton Funeral Home & Cemetery, Brampton on Sunday, May 5, 2019 from 1-5pm. A funeral service will take on Monday, May 6, 2019 at 2pm in the chapel, burial to follow.
If desired, donations in Thomas Richard’s memory may be made to the Heart and Stroke Foundation.
Larry John William Raycroft, born October 7, 1952 in Toronto, passed away peacefully surrounded by his family on the evening of June 14 in his 67th year. Larry will be greatly missed by Anita, his loving wife of 20 years, and his children Caylee (Scott), Joey, Jeannie (Dan), Andrew, Glenna (Jordan), Sally (Braydon), Holly (Brandon), Paige (Bryn), Katy, and Layne, as well as his granddaughter Jovanna (and Punim the cat). Sisters Wendy (Mark), Nancy, and Heather (Jon), and all of his nieces and nephews deeply mourn the sudden loss of their big brother and uncle. He will be greeted in Heaven by his mother, Jeanne Booth, his father Glenn Raycroft, and his infant son Robbie. Larry was a man of many talents – a gifted musician, a pilot, motorcyclist, and an avid traveler. Of all of his accomplishments, the one Larry treasured most was his family. The family would like to extend their sincere gratitude to the doctors and nurses in the cardiac intensive care unit at KGH, who went above and beyond to provide compassionate support. A special thank you to Cathy MacGillivary and Tim DeJonge for their emotional assistance during our difficult time.
Visitations will be at James Reid Funeral Home (1900 John Counter Blvd.,) on Wednesday, June 19 from 2:00pm to 4:00pm, and 7:00pm to 9:00pm. Mass of Christian Burial will be at St Paul the Apostle Parish (1111 Taylor Kidd Blvd.,) on Thursday, June 20 at 11:00am. Rite of Committal at St. Mary’s Catholic Cemetery. Reception to follow the burial at James Reid Funeral Home. In lieu of flowers the family requests donations to the Heart and Stroke Foundation, or Ride for Dad to further prostate cancer research.
In Loving Memory Of Michael Carruthers Beeman, U.E., died on Wednesday, May 29, 2019, aged 82, at Providence Manor in Kingston.
Born on September 21, 1936, he was the youngest of four children of Brigadier William Gilbert Beeman and Kathleen Burpee Carruthers of Kingston. His three older siblings passed away before him: Patricia Carruthers “Patsy” Beeman Fleming (survived by Robert John “Bob” Fleming of Kingston); William John Milton “Bill” Beeman (married to the late Nancy Jane Logan Beeman of London); and Peter Carruthers Henault Beeman (survived by Elizabeth “Betty” Fleming Beeman of Whitby).
He leaves a niece, Kathleen Louise Beeman of Kingston, his primary caregiver for many years. He also leaves three nephews, Christopher Douglas Beeman of Brandon, William Logan “Sandy” Beeman of Ottawa, and Robert John Carruthers Fleming of Montreal, married to Claudine Roy, whose children are Nicolas (Saada El-Akhrass), Philippe (Kat Cadegan) and Amélie (Simon Larose).
A proud member of the United Empire Loyalists’ Association of Canada, Michael was one of the youngest of Kingston’s extended Carruthers clan, and was closest to his cousin Elizabeth “Lizzy” Panet Fairbairn, who now also resides in Providence Manor. Michael’s cousins from this family include the Baynes, Campbells, Chowns, Constantines, Cookes, Cowies, Danbys, Fairbairns, Forgies, Formans, Frenches, Fyons, Garcias, Ginns, Hamiltons, Hansons, MacDuffs, Mackays, Marins, Massies, Panets, Percivals, Ruddicks, Sculthorpes, Shirreffs, Silcotts, Simsons, Smiths, Sullivans, Tobers, Wards and their descendants.
Further afield, Michael was close to his Ross cousins – David (married to Heather Anderson-Ross, of Toronto, with sons Jamie and Cam), Czashka (married to Gary Roth, of Pennsylvania and Panama, with sons Ivan, Nicholas and Peter), Cory (married to Greg Conaway, of Oregon, with her daughters Shane and Jil), and Ali (with daughters Robin and Leah). Michael is also survived by his cousin William “Bill” Little and partner Joy Dexter of Perth, Ontario.
Michael’s life was enriched by his friends, and he continued to make them throughout his life. With Kevin Kittner he explored every corner of the city; Pat Kittner was a friend, nurse and host of delicious dinners. Travis Docteur, whose family were neighbours, formed a decades-long bond, and Anna Docteur showed many kindnesses.
Michael was an adventurer, a musician, and a seeker all his life. He learned how to fly at age 19, and piloted his friends from Kingston airport to New York City, a feat meriting coverage in the Whig Standard. This in turn led to his career as a NORAD air traffic controller, and other military work, ending as an internal auditor at the Canadian Forces Base Kingston.
He loved outdoor sports and won a trophy for cross-country running at Lakefield College School. The younger members of his family remember skiing and snowmobiling expeditions with him. A crowning achievement resulted from his rescuing one of the Royal Military College’s heavy oak iceboats, in which he and his crew raced across the ice of Lake Ontario and nearby waterways during several winters. He enjoyed sailing, cruising, and relaxing with his family at the idyllic beach at Carruthers Point.
Early in life Michael passed rigorous selections to sing with two of the most demanding choirs in Canada, at St. George’s in Kingston and St. Mary Magdalene’s in Toronto. His Steinway was the pride of his living room, he proctored examinations for the Royal Conservatory of Music, and he enjoyed his front-row balcony seats at the Kingston Symphony. He had a discerning ear, and before Joni Mitchell and Gordon Lightfoot achieved stardom, he took his nephew John to their concerts.
As Michael began his retirement he increased his work in the community, ranging from volunteering as a member of the board of the Kingston Frontenac Public Library, serving on the Citizen Advisory Committee for Correctional Services Canada, to driving for Meals on Wheels.
Later in life Michael began a new life in the Catholic faith, and joined a welcoming church family at St. Paul the Apostle, with its priest Father Leo Byrne,succeeded by Father Sebastian Amato. His spirit of service saw him participating as a greeter and lay reader, and he was welcomed into the brotherhood of the Knights of Columbus, where he rose to the fourth degree. An admirer of the Sisters of Providence, Michael entered one of their foundations, Providence Manor, as his life drew to its close, and benefited from the kindly attendants, the caring nurses, and the moving spiritual life.
Michael’s family will receive his friends and acquaintances at the Gordon F. Tompkins Funeral Home – Township Chapel, 435 Davis Drive in Kingston on Friday, June 28, from 2:00 to 4:00 p.m. and 7:00 to 9:00 p.m. His funeral mass as a Knight will take place at St. Paul the Apostle church, 1111 Taylor Kidd Boulevard, at 11:30 a.m. on Saturday, June 29. His remains will be buried in his family plot at Newburgh United Church cemetery, 2157 Camden Road, outside Newburgh, later the same day.
Michael being recognized by GK. Terry Finn for 19 years of service with KofC.
This is the traditional greeting and response of Catholics at this Easter time. How many of us have actually used this greeting “out there, in the street?” Personally, I have to admit, “not very often”. It seems a bit ‘out there’ to make such proclamations, Yet Jesus was willing to be tortured, stripped and nailed to a cross for us. He was slain for us, so that we might be able to be saved and be with him forever in Heaven.
On Passion (Palm) Sunday, I was the second reader and I had a powerful, spiritual experience while I was at the Ambo reading. When I got to the part where “He humbled himself, becoming obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross”, I found myself standing, not at the Ambo but at the foot of the cross in Calvary. I looked up and saw Jesus looking at me and I said “Why? You did all this? For ME?” and then I was suddenly standing in front of the ambo again. I picked up where I had left off and finished the reading. But when I tried to walk away, back to my place, my legs didn’t quite work right. I had to grab the ambo for balance. Shaun Tymchuk noticed; he asked me if I was OK – did I need to sit down. I think he thought I had a medical issue and was about to pass out. I have heard it said that some call this kind of experience “Slain in the Spirit”. While I didn’t collapse, I certainly stumbled.
The answers to my questions were slowly revealed me the rest of Holy Week through the Easter Weekend. “Why? All this for me? I’m not worthy. What have I done to deserve this?” At the Chrism Mass, I saw the Holy Spirit working in all the parishes through the bishops, the priests and deacons and so many lay people. On Thursday, He washed my feet, on Friday, He opened his arms to show me how much he loved me. And on Easter He rose up and spoke love.
This past week after Easter, there were several Gospel versions of the story of Mary [the] Magdalene finding the empty tomb and meeting Jesus. There are several historic meanings to the word Magdalene ranging from Curly-haired beauty to, well… did you know that one of them means, essentially Prostitute? Mary was a woman who was (in her mind) unworthy, yet Jesus saved her, despite her previous life (some scholars say she was the woman he saved from stoning, others, the sister of Martha, the one who poured out perfume on his feet). She had finally found a man who loved her as a person, not for what she could do for him but just because she was a person who deserved to be loved. He appeared to her first, not Peter or John, Mary! I finally realized that Jesus loved me too, despite my not being worthy, just because I was a person He loved. It all came together for me.
You too are that person whom He loves. We have all just journeyed through the season of Lent. We had been focusing on our sins and how they contributed to the separation between us and God, between us and our brothers and sisters in Christ and on a wider scale, to the separation, even between peoples on earth. That was hard!
Now, we can see that Jesus loves us despite our unworthiness. He took upon himself all our sins and we are free. We do not need to carry that burden any more. We are free of the sins that kept us from being able to love Christ. Free from the sins that kept us from being able to love each other. We are free of the habits and attitudes that enslaved us for so long. Let’s not go back there. Remember, before Lent, I suggested you consider giving something up for life? Well, now, let’s not go back. We found, instead of burying ourselves in TV or Facebook or sports or other things, that we could be more available to love our wives, our children, to pray, to renew ourselves spiritually. Let’s continue that renewal but now, with the knowledge that we can be free of our sins forever and that Jesus Loves us into holiness, despite what we may have believed about ourselves.
Vivat Jesus, the traditional greeting for Brother Knights means Long Live Jesus (in your Hearts).
Long Live Jesus. May He forever be the centre of your hearts and lives, and may you forever be free of all your past sins to love and worship Him and each other. In Jesus Name, I pray this, Amen.
With Lent fast approaching, we need to draw our sights towards this new liturgical season. But what are we supposed to be doing in Lent that is different from the rest of the year? Lent can be a time to throw off the things in our lives that have been weighing us down and preventing us from giving our Lord and Savior his due Praise and Glory. What is holding you back? What can you let go of that has been keeping you from loving your God, your spouse, your kids? Do you spend a lot of time watching TV? Do you spend your time or money at endeavors that you could be better spending as a good Catholic Man, Husband, Father?
I have noticed over the years how often it seems that people can go through life with their faces in a screen somewhere. It’s been one of my biggest time/money wasters. I have to check my phone regularly to see the weather network app, the latest update from the CBC news app, check how many ‘likes’ my latest post on Facebook or Twitter just got. For the longest while, I would sit in my La-Z-Boy with my laptop on my lap while the family watched a movie or a show on TV. I was there with them, wasn’t I? Only after several years of that did I realize I was in fact so far from my family, even while I was in the same room that I didn’t see how much I was missing. I was two screens away from everybody, the TV and my laptop. The TV was doing a pretty good job of separating us all from each other but that at least would have been a shared experience even though we were not really communicating. Alas, I was only half sharing in that as I sat there playing my “Castle game” as I called it. Building an army, defending and attacking other players, joining in a league and growing our ‘community’. What a waste. All that time and effort into something that was damaging my real community, my family.
A few weeks ago, I started on a new Journey called Exodus 90. The goal of this journey is to help us develop new habits, ones that are free from the burdens that have been holding us back. You may have heard of some of them, cold showers, no alcohol, no snacks between meals. Pfft. Those are easy things. The real challenge is giving up my screens and even more than that, trying to develop a habit of prayer that builds me spiritually into the Catholic Gentleman, Father, Christian, I should be. Since giving up my screens, Cynthia and I have spent hours talking, sharing, praying and playing together in the past few weeks. We have gone out on dates, had celebrations, laughed and cried tears both of joy and frustration. I have never felt closer to my wife and children now than at any time I can remember in the past many long years. I have fallen in Love with Cynthia all over again. Instead of sitting together in the living room, watching the latest episode of whatever show we were following, we are sharing our lives with each other again. I have learned new things about my wife these past weeks and after almost 28 years of marriage, it was surprising and thrilling to find out how much more there is to learn about her.
Gentlemen, you don’t have to do “Exodus 90” or any other particular program but you do need to make some changes in your lives. We all do. My Lenten journey really began a month ago and I will graduate at Easter as a free man, no longer burdened by as many things in my life, more able to live and love as God meant me to do. You too can grow this Lent. We are quite familiar with the concept and are familiar with the question “What are you giving up for lent?”. But it’s not about what you’re giving up for Lent. It’s about what is holding you a slave and preventing you from being free to be the Catholic, Christian Man. You can. You may know what it is now that is enslaving you, or you may need some time in prayer; honest, soul-searching prayer, to discern what these things are. Make a vow now to give them up, not for lent, but for God, for your wife, for life. And don’t just give up these things. Replace them, with prayer, play, family, service to Church and each other.
Finn; Terrence James “Terry” – Son of the late Helen and Jim, brother of Larry Finn (Judith) and Jeanne Finn-Allen (Ed), husband of Janet Wotten-Finn, father of Erica Ginham (Rob), grandfather of Lola, Poppy and Finn, brother-in-law of Pat Chase (Robert) and Art Osmond (Ruby). Fondly remembered by our nieces, nephews and friends.
Well done our Terry! You did a great job while you blessed us with your presence. You can rest in God’s care now. .
Everyone’s life has its time of sadness but if we are blessed, we receive moments of happiness and seconds of great joy. To our family and many friends who stayed in touch and kept us in your prayers, you were the moments of happiness and a constant source of great joy. Your strength was and is still with us. .
Please join us at the Wartman Funeral Home – Kingston Chapel for visitation on Monday, January 14, 2019 from 7-9 pm and from 10-11am at St. Paul the Apostle Catholic Church (1111 Taylor Kidd Boulevard) on Tuesday, January 15, 2019. Mass of Christian Burial will follow in the Church at 11: 00 am. Friends desiring may contribute by cheque to St. Paul the Apostle – Knights of Columbus. On-line condolences at www.wartmanfuneralhomes.com
I have been struggling with another Faith issue of late. Why can I not be the person I know I should be? I know about Jesus and his saving grace. I have accepted him as my Lord and Savior. Yet, I do not act like I have Jesus as a friend. I too often behave in ways I know will hurt either me or someone else. I have hurt my children, my wife, my friends, my fellow knights and my co-workers with my sinful behaviour over the years. How am I to cope?
I think St. Paul had some of these similar issues. “For I know that in me, that is, in my flesh, there dwells nothing good… For the good that I wish, I do not do, but the bad that I do not wish is what I practice” (Romans 7:18-19). We cannot do it by ourselves. We need the help of the Holy Spirit to overcome our sinful ways.
12Therefore, brothers and sisters, we have an obligation—but it is not to the flesh, to live according to it. 13 For if you live according to the flesh, you will die; but if by the Spirit you put to death the misdeeds of the body, you will live. (Romans 8:12-13)
This past year, I started going to reconciliation again after having shied away from the sacrament sort of on purpose over the past few years. “I don’t need to confess my sins to a priest! I can do it myself!” I lied to my-self. I was clearly failing to improve and worst of all, I felt more and more of my own self accusations. I had started to not like the imposter I had become. Holy and good on the outside but rotten to the core inside, full of envy and greed and lustful thoughts. I was not the man people thought I was (or so I felt).
This past year, I began feeling the need to return to The Lord’s Graces in the sacrament of Reconciliation again. At first it was hard. I wasn’t even sure I remembered how to do it (I did). I went last winter and simply spoke to the priest, talking about my failures, my ‘crimes’ and how un-Christian I was.
Fully expecting at least a tiny look of disgust to flash across his eyes, I saw only loving and acceptance from the priest. When he pronounced the words, “Your Sins are Forgiven!” I felt a weight lift off my chest like a bolder being removed. I could breathe again. I could feel love again and I truly felt like I could forgive and be forgiven again. I have returned again to reconciliation since then, most recently, Just before Christmas when our parish held a drop-in Reconciliation session in the Church. It was a joyous event and I was even able to suggest successfully that a friend also attend. I did note how scant the crowd was and I wondered how many of my fellow parishioners partake in this wonderful opportunity to experience God’s forgiveness in such a real, tangible way. Have you been to Reconciliation this season? It’s so easy! Just go to the priest and say “Hello Father, I haven’t been here for a while. Can you help me through this please?” He will, and you will never regret it.
As a bit of business, We will be holding a first-degree like we did this fall, at our regular meeting in March. Please use your new-found graces you received from Reconciliation to invite a friend to join the Knights. We welcome all who are interested in becoming a member of this faithful fellowship of friends.
As I wonder about the world in recent times, I sometimes feel overwhelmed. Someone cuts me off in traffic and my response is anger. Others are upset that wealthy people are getting even richer and they seem to be getting all the (tax) breaks. Others are angry that foreigners are being allowed into our country; after all, they might be terrorists in disguise. Fear and Anger seems to be a motivating factor in lots of people lately. Fear at the imagined dangers hidden in others, anger that someone disagrees with us because, “we are right”. People are spreading extremist messages spouting fear and hatred of others on just about any topic and from all perspectives. It seems like everybody is supposed to hate ‘the other’. We don’t even know who the “other” people are, but we are told to call them “Enemy”, “Traitor”, “Stupid”, and many other dehumanizing terms. How do we fit in? What should we do?
So, what do we do when we see or experience something that seems to challenge our beliefs? Do we roll over and let it go because we’re afraid to rock the boat? Do we get angry and vilify everyone we think may have been involved? I think neither option serves us very well. Allowing others to roll over us in their ignorance or arrogance (whichever it is) will hurt both of us, whose faith is being trampled, and them, whose faith will not be enhanced by a positive encounter with us. Getting angry will only serve to encourage the anger or resentment from the other side and will lead to further hurt both ways. In fact, that kind of anger only serves Satan, who wants us to be angry at each other. The angrier we get, the more we divide up the Church and the more he is winning, and we are losing.
So, there is a better way. As Catholics, we hold to the Faith that Christ Loves us all equally. Each and every one of us is a child of God “even when we are not faithful, God will always be faithful” (2 Tim 2:13). We are called to be Saints (1 Cor 1:2). We are expected to “Live in a manner worthy of the call we have received” (Eph 4:1-6). The Church needs us to heed our call to sainthood. She needs more saints here in the world to help heal the World. We need to avoid being influenced by the world around us; We need to live in Christ and allow Christ to influence the world through us. We need to recognize Christ in all people and love him in others, even when those around us seem to hate.
Pray Brothers that we can come to know our own sins and come to know ourselves as sinners who can be and are being saved by God’s love and that we can use that self-awareness to guide how we see others. We ask God to send his Spirit on us, so that we can have help in discernment and right judgement (Jer 22:3), so that we can see Christ in others as well, even when they (and we) are not faithful.